In life, we are generally taught to follow the crowd. Ever notice that?
At home, while growing up. In school, when we started learning and at work when we pursue our own careers.
They all have the element of OBEDIENCE. You obey the rules of life without questions, without hesitations even though you always have the choice to follow your own decision.
Growing up, I followed some fads because I thought that was really the cool thing to do. Following everyone made me feel that I belong. There was ACCEPTANCE, or so I thought. But as I hit my 20s, I realized that I do not want to blend in. I do not want to go with the flow. I want to be different. I dare to be different.
Being different is accepting myself that I am not cut to be ordinary; I am not a follower. I realised that this is the kind of acceptance that I need and once you have recognized that, the acceptance of the people around you will follow.
Being different is accepting myself that I am not cut to be ordinary; I am not a follower. I realized that this is the kind of acceptance that I need and once you have recognized that, the acceptance of the people around you will follow.
From fashion choices to life choices, I try my best to decide for myself because I do not fancy the possibility of pointing fingers to others just because things screwed up by following them. My choices may not always be the best but I learn from my mistakes.
There were times when I do try to blend because I feel like it is the safest thing to do but at the end of the day, my gut is challenging me, or as what E.L James’ refer to as “my inner goddess” talks to me. She tells me, “Oh c’mon! You know this ain’t you! Come out!”. It is like a wake up call – A slap that helps me realize that I won’t be happy if I do this.
Following my heart may scream selfish to you but I do not see it that way. Following my heart gives me inner peace and happiness. Following my heart may not always make everyone happy, but you can never always please the crowd. As long as you are not hurting anyone, I believe that is fine.
I may not be considered pretty or beautiful, but every time that I make a decision where I follow my heart, I feel beautiful from within. I feel that my inner moonlight shines so bright. I feel that I am my own kind of beautiful.
So go ahead my dear, try to follow what your heart desires. Be different, be bold. Be the person that you want to be. 🙂
“The woman who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been before.”
~ Albert Einstein