About three weeks ago, I went out to take care of some errands and while I was in this arts and crafts store, I asked the girl at the counter on how to be a member so I can enjoy the perks. She delightfully assisted me and instructed to fill out their form and pay a one-time fee.
This is not the first time that I completed a form since I quit my job. Don’t get me wrong, I have no regrets being a stay-at-home wife (SAHW). Like what I always say, I am enjoying every bit of it. But when it comes to forms and questions such as:
- Field of Work
I either have a 10-second pause or answer them last. But most of the time, I would tick the Others option.
You must be asking why I’m having doubts answering these simple forms? This is because of my past experiences, whenever I’m contacted or approached to join and give my feedback on certain products or services that I use or always buy and they found out that I am a HOUSEWIFE, they will take a step back and say (with the sweetest smile on their faces),
“Oh, I see. Unfortunately, your profile does not fit with what we are looking for at the moment. But we will keep your contact details for future reference.” <END>
It’s like being turned down on a job application, seriously. In my head, I’m in this monologue:
“So if I am a housewife, yet I buy from your shop, I can’t participate in giving feedback just because I’M NOT WORKING? Housewives have fashion opinions, too!“
or as simple as “Seriously?! SERIOUSLY.“
In the real world, it is unfortunate how the society classifies your importance depending on your job or profession.
Ridiculous as it may be, I decided not to spend unnecessary energy to worry and argue. I move on and there are times when I use the “housewife” status as a defense mechanism to avoid sales people. Mind you, it works most of the time. In the real world, it is unfortunate how the society classifies your importance depending on your job /profession.
But on that particular day at the craft store, I decided to change my usual answer. For the first time, I wrote LIFESTYLE BLOGGER on the form. I am not sure if I was just hungry or what, that I wrote it on the form. But whatever amount of Monosodium glutamate (MSG) that I have in my body on that day, it sure helped me a lot to write those words on a piece of paper. 😀
After going around, I got some coffee and sent a message to my husband. I asked him if I can be considered a lifestyle blogger and he replied, “Yes! that’s what you really do.” Then I told him that from now on, I will not be shy to tell people that I am a lifestyle blogger and I will make that happen. 🙂
A Lifestyle Blog?
- The definition of lifestyle is the way you live including your style, attitudes and possessions;
- the consistent, integrated way of life of an individual as typified by his or her manner, attitudes, possessions, etc.
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In my post entitled, A Blogger’s Confession: On Self-Doubt, I shared my fears as a blogger and why I choose to keep it discreet from my circle. When people I know ask what I do now that I’m not working, I just answer them, “Oh you know, usual stuff,” then shut myself off. I’ve been in conversations where I told them about my blogging and all they say is “Ah, Okay.” or no reaction at all. It simply signifies that these people in my circle are not really interested to know what I’m blogging about – and yes! I get that. So why will I push the conversation further, right?
While for stores or sellers, it is a different story. They are excited to know more about my blog and even requests for my name card. So for me, it was a mixed message, really. Should I share it or not?
Despite the struggle, here I am still writing and sharing my experiences and thoughts to the world. I’m in the process of gaining the much-needed confidence and thanks to the words of encouragement from my closest family members, friends, and fellow bloggers. How can you not be inspired if you find out your husband promotes your blog to his colleagues? Ain’t that sweet?? He said that when people ask him about my work, he answers them with, “She’s a housewife and a blogger.” (then gives out my blog address) 😀
If these people believe in what I can do, I think it is time for me to step up and shake off the fears in my head. Instead of worrying what others may say, I will enjoy blogging about the ideas I have in mind.
I still fall on my face sometimes and I
Can’t color inside the lines ’cause
I’m perfectly incomplete
I’m still working on my masterpiece and I
I wanna hang with the greatest gotta
Way to go, but it’s worth the wait, no
You haven’t seen the best of me
I’m still working on my masterpiece
– Jessie J, Masterpiece
What about you? Do you proudly tell people about your blog? or the author of your blog serves as your alter ego? 😉
If you must say yes, say it with an open heart. If you must say no, say it without fear.
– Paulo Coelho