Say It With Conviction: A Blogger’s Journey in Overcoming Self-Doubt

Do you proudly tell people about your blog? or the author of your blog serves as your alter ego?

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About three weeks ago, I went out to take care of some errands and while I was in this arts and crafts store, I asked the girl at the counter on how to be a member so I can enjoy the perks. She delightfully assisted me and instructed to fill out their form and pay a one-time fee.

Conviction

This is not the first time that I completed a form since I quit my job. Don’t get me wrong, I have no regrets being a stay-at-home wife (SAHW). Like what I always say, I am enjoying every bit of it. But when it comes to forms and questions such as:

  • Occupation
  • Profession
  • Field of Work

I either have a 10-second pause or answer them last. But most of the time, I would tick the Others option.

You must be asking why I’m having doubts answering these simple forms? This is because of my past experiences, whenever I’m contacted or approached to join and give my feedback on certain products or services that I use or always buy and they found out that I am a HOUSEWIFE, they will take a step back and say (with the sweetest smile on their faces),

Oh, I see. Unfortunately, your profile does not fit with what we are looking for at the moment. But we will keep your contact details for future reference.” <END>

It’s like being turned down on a job application, seriously. In my head, I’m in this monologue:

So if I am a housewife, yet I buy from your shop, I can’t participate in giving feedback just because I’M NOT WORKING? Housewives have fashion opinions, too!

or as simple as “Seriously?! SERIOUSLY.

In the real world, it is unfortunate how the society classifies your importance depending on your job or profession.

Ridiculous as it may be, I decided not to spend unnecessary energy to worry and argue. I move on and there are times when I use the “housewife” status as a defense mechanism to avoid sales people. Mind you, it works most of the time. In the real world, it is unfortunate how the society classifies your importance depending on your job /profession.

But on that particular day at the craft store, I decided to change my usual answer. For the first time, I wrote LIFESTYLE BLOGGER on the form. I am not sure if I was just hungry or what, that I wrote it on the form. But whatever amount of Monosodium glutamate (MSG) that I have in my body on that day, it sure helped me a lot to write those words on a piece of paper. 😀

After going around, I got some coffee and sent a message to my husband. I asked him if I can be considered a lifestyle blogger and he replied, “Yes! that’s what you really do.” Then I told him that from now on, I will not be shy to tell people that I am a lifestyle blogger and I will make that happen. 🙂

A Lifestyle Blog?

Lifestyle (noun)

  • The definition of lifestyle is the way you live including your style, attitudes and possessions;
  • the consistent, integrated way of life of an individual as typified by his or her manner, attitudes, possessions, etc.

Source: yourdictionary.com

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In my post entitled, A Blogger’s Confession: On Self-Doubt, I shared my fears as a blogger and why I choose to keep it discreet from my circle. When people I know ask what I do now that I’m not working, I just answer them, “Oh you know, usual stuff,” then shut myself off. I’ve been in conversations where I told them about my blogging and all they say is “Ah, Okay.” or no reaction at all. It simply signifies that these people in my circle are not really interested to know what I’m blogging about – and yes! I get that. So why will I push the conversation further, right?

While for stores or sellers, it is a different story. They are excited to know more about my blog and even requests for my name card. So for me, it was a mixed message, really. Should I share it or not?

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Despite the struggle, here I am still writing and sharing my experiences and thoughts to the world. I’m in the process of gaining the much-needed confidence and thanks to the words of encouragement from my closest family members, friends, and fellow bloggers. How can you not be inspired if you find out your husband promotes your blog to his colleagues? Ain’t that sweet?? He said that when people ask him about my work, he answers them with, “She’s a housewife and a blogger.” (then gives out my blog address) 😀

If these people believe in what I can do, I think it is time for me to step up and shake off the fears in my head. Instead of worrying what others may say, I will enjoy blogging about the ideas I have in mind.

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I still fall on my face sometimes and I
Can’t color inside the lines ’cause
I’m perfectly incomplete
I’m still working on my masterpiece and I
I wanna hang with the greatest gotta
Way to go, but it’s worth the wait, no
You haven’t seen the best of me
I’m still working on my masterpiece

– Jessie J,  Masterpiece

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What about you? Do you proudly tell people about your blog? or the author of your blog serves as your alter ego? 😉

If you must say yes, say it with an open heart. If you must say no, say it without fear.

– Paulo Coelho

xoxo berryduchess

29 comments on “Say It With Conviction: A Blogger’s Journey in Overcoming Self-Doubt”

  1. It never ceases to amaze and disappoint me how we are defined by our profession. Even in this day and age to be a stay at home housewife and/or mother still requires justification for this decision for so many. Why I never know…

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    1. That’s very true. At times when I’m asked with “so, what do you do?” question, I feel like I automatically turn into defensive mode. Because the moment people learn that I am a housewife, the autoresponse will be “aww! I envy you! you have a lot of free time!” which I beg to disagree. Being a homemaker is a very tough job.

      Also, the fact that you are classified and as if placed at the end of the line (after the career-oriented women, JUST BECAUSE you are a housewife/mom) is another issue.

      Will we blame the what these businesses call as “target market?” 😀

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      1. DON’T GET ME STARTED… oh yes, ALL THAT FREE TIME… never do I sit and do nothing – goodness knows I wish I could – but I actually feel GUILTY if I do nothing even though my day starts the moment hubby walks out the door at 6am. What I’ve found the saddest though is the hierarchy within “housewives”. Really? One housewife is “better” than another? Seriously? So much for supporting one another. And on that note I hear my dryer has stopped hence there’s folding to be done, more drying, beds to be stripped, and so on and so forth, lol. 🙂

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      2. Yep, it’s just the way of the world. Anyways, here’s to a great day whatever we are doing ’cause that’s what we want to do. Besides, I have a date with Bono next week so life is good… VERY GOOD, lol! 😉

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  2. Lovely, heartfelt post! Our cultural attitude anyone actively employed is disappointing – and the condescension you feel is also felt by others. At the other end of the spectrum, I’m sure that’s part of the reason people find it hard to “retire”. And I like reading posts from lifestyle bloggers – they are always insightful. 🙂

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  3. I was just at the bank having a chat the other day and she asked me what I did all day as I wasn’t working. I said I blog and it was hilarious the look on her face like that would be a replacement for a “real” job. But I let it go as I did not feel like I needed to explain it to her. I did chuckle though. I should have had a camera to take a pic of her face now that would have been funny

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    1. haha! this is also true! you know, there are few relatives who can understand and support this thing that we do, but most of them dont. Thats just the reality. blogging for them means net surfing all the time. (esp for old skool people) :))

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  4. I read this post with a huge smile on my face because your words were so powerful, honest and strong! I am so glad to have you as my blogging friend because I completely agree with every emotion and opinion you put down in this post!
    The lifestyle blogger is a perfect title — and since my blog is called “Lifestyles with Lia”, I couldn’t agree more that the word fits like a glove!
    I must admit that only close family and friends know about my blog — I’ve not told anyone else yet because I’d like to keep it on the more private side — and I haven’t even posted a photo of me. I like my words to represent who I am and I hope my blog shows what I have on the inside 🙂
    Have an amazing start to your weekend and thanks again for sharing your thoughts with us!
    *Lia

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    1. Thanks Lia! 🙂 I initially wanted to have a theme for my blog (like that of a travel blog or beauty blog) but since I do not travel a lot or that I am not a makeup artist by profession, I cant sustain them. But since I have a very “talkative” brain (is that correct or what?! lol) lifestyle blog is the best classification. 🙂 or in short, it is a blog where I can write anything I want! lol

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  5. Well done!
    Don’t ever fear this question again. You’re not defined by what you do and those who think like that, should not be the ones whose opinions matter to you.
    You’re who you’re and that’s worth it every day of your existence.
    The choices you make on what to do with your life is none of their business.
    You are the only one to define yourself.
    And if lifestyle blogging is what you do, say it with conviction, as you have nothing to be ashamed of.
    Way to go, blogger!

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